So I had my suspicions the Lobster was seeing someone, he told me so himself but I didn't take much notice.
However, I saw some friends of his last night who informed me of the girls name and that she is not local ( I have an idea who it might be) and it kinda bummed me out for the following reasons;
1. - She's not local. Typical commitment phobic behaviour, going for someone that is not that available / wont last. I have seen him have a long distance relationship previously.
2. He has pursued someone else. He never put in any effort for me. What was wrong with me? Was I not worth it?
3. I miss him. I just want my friend back. Even though he has not apologised for the hurtful words and vile behaviour at christmas.
I know, I get it right.
HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
But that doesn't stop it from hurting.
When I finally called a day on our situation I felt ok, it was on my terms I knew it wasn't getting me anywhere, but since hearing that he has moved on and is seeing someone else it has really thrown me. It don't help that I myself have not met anyone, I don't even feel remotely ready to yet.
I have spent today in a black mood, feeling sorry for myself very Bridget Jones style, thinking how much I miss him, but do I actually really want him or not?
The thing is, we forget the bad stuff ever happened and look back fondly on the good times, but things ended for a reason. I need to remember the countless times I cried myself to sleep, had sleepless nights due to stress and how low and worthless he actually made me feel most of the time.
So if you have ever been in a similar position repeat after me...